Significant Others

sasdasdaf · December 15th, 2006, 03:09 AM

Hi all,

Welcome your opinions. How do you guys deal with a significant other who is not into diving? My girlfriend is not a diver at the moment but hopefully she will take her OW class relatively soon. Nonetheless, she's not going to want to go tech/cave diving. I don't have much vacation time and sounds like we would have to split between diving and non-diving vacations.

My girlfriend has been really understanding and accomodating, but I am interested in opinions in anticipation of any issues.

Thanks.

limeyx · December 15th, 2006, 07:53 AM

Quote: (Originally Posted by sasdasdaf)

Hi all,

Welcome your opinions. How do you guys deal with a significant other who is not into diving? My girlfriend is not a diver at the moment but hopefully she will take her OW class relatively soon. Nonetheless, she's not going to want to go tech/cave diving. I don't have much vacation time and sounds like we would have to split between diving and non-diving vacations.

My girlfriend has been really understanding and accomodating, but I am interested in opinions in anticipation of any issues.

Thanks.

mine does not dive. but is a lawyer and now just finishing med school and will have to work 80 hours a week.

I have plenty of time to dive

krautrob · December 15th, 2006, 08:25 AM

My experience is that you should not try to push your s.o. into diving. It's great if they want to try but the momentum should come from them. Diving is terrible and a nightmare if you are not enjoying it but just giving in to some pressure or because you want to do somebody else a favour. It's only good if you want to do it yourself.

There are many other things you can have fun with doing together besides diving.

And yes, I would love if I could spend time with my girlfriend and be diving at the same time.

sasdasdaf · December 15th, 2006, 08:45 AM

thanks for the responses so far. i'm definitely aware that i should not try to push her to learn how to dive too much. i'm trying not to be a tyrant and let the impetus come from her as much as possible. i'm hoping that she will see how much fun we have and will be interested in her own right.

MonkSeal · December 15th, 2006, 08:58 AM

I dive easy, recreational, warm water dives with my wife and I don't expect her to go tech path. If this happens sometime in the future she'll get my support. In the meantime my son started to dive this year and I expect my daughter to start next year.

**neilh** · December 15th, 2006, 10:15 AM

Quote: (Originally Posted by sasdasdaf)

Hi all,

Welcome your opinions. How do you guys deal with a significant other who is not into diving?

Give and take! My wife doesn't dive either (and isn't keen having tried it once and really didn't take to it). I'm lucky because she puts up with me heading off for dive trips - in return I try to make sure I spend some time with her!

Holidays are about balance as well. If we go somewhere that I could get a few dives in then that's great, but I don't spend every day diving! She's supportive of me having a diving holiday without her (like Scapa this year), so I try to be grateful!

Ahmed Adly, Marlin Inn DC · December 15th, 2006, 10:43 AM

I have been a dive pro for a long time now and my wife dosn't dive much at all actually. The time I am out on the boat is like "my time", away from the kids. So just enjoy your time as much as possible.

talking a lot about it is also something that could cause some peer pressure, so watch out. You wouldn't believe how many un wanting spouses I have trained. Total disater for both men and woman.

lizardland · December 15th, 2006, 01:53 PM

I tell her I'm going diving. Then I go diving. It seems to work

JohnOll · December 15th, 2006, 03:01 PM

My wife has no interest in diving. In fact, she feels nervous in a deep bath.

On the plus side, this means she has no idea of the cost of all my dive kit

John.

DRE · December 15th, 2006, 07:10 PM

Find a new girlfriend who does like to cave/tech dive or at least likes the idea of it - them marry her. She'll make the best and most reliable dive buddy ever!

December 15th, 2006, 03:09 AM	#1 (permalink)
sasdasdaf(Offline) New Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Singapore Posts: 375	Significant Others Hi all, Welcome your opinions. How do you guys deal with a significant other who is not into diving? My girlfriend is not a diver at the moment but hopefully she will take her OW class relatively soon. Nonetheless, she's not going to want to go tech/cave diving. I don't have much vacation time and sounds like we would have to split between diving and non-diving vacations. My girlfriend has been really understanding and accomodating, but I am interested in opinions in anticipation of any issues. Thanks.

December 15th, 2006, 07:53 AM	#2 (permalink)
limeyx(Offline) New Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Los Angeles, CA Posts: 708	Quote: (Originally Posted by sasdasdaf) Hi all, Welcome your opinions. How do you guys deal with a significant other who is not into diving? My girlfriend is not a diver at the moment but hopefully she will take her OW class relatively soon. Nonetheless, she's not going to want to go tech/cave diving. I don't have much vacation time and sounds like we would have to split between diving and non-diving vacations. My girlfriend has been really understanding and accomodating, but I am interested in opinions in anticipation of any issues. Thanks. mine does not dive. but is a lawyer and now just finishing med school and will have to work 80 hours a week. I have plenty of time to dive __________________ my divelog: http://www.mydivinglife.com/limeyx

December 15th, 2006, 10:43 AM	#7 (permalink)
Ahmed Adly, Marlin Inn DC(Offline) New Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: hurghada Posts: 849	I have been a dive pro for a long time now and my wife dosn't dive much at all actually. The time I am out on the boat is like "my time", away from the kids. So just enjoy your time as much as possible. talking a lot about it is also something that could cause some peer pressure, so watch out. You wouldn't believe how many un wanting spouses I have trained. Total disater for both men and woman. __________________ It has just dawned on me.... We are all just recycled stardust Ahmed Adly, www.deepvoyage.com

December 15th, 2006, 01:53 PM	#8 (permalink)
lizardland(Offline) LCS Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Evidently Chickentown Posts: 593	I tell her I'm going diving. Then I go diving. It seems to work __________________ Can you imagine drifting along in the sea with your mouth open and a load of f***ing plankton going in? You'd like it, would you? www.westons-cider.co.uk The Lot isn't the only place to dive: http://www.lulu.com/content/613554

December 15th, 2006, 03:01 PM	#9 (permalink)
JohnOll(Offline) New Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Nottingham Posts: 15	My wife has no interest in diving. In fact, she feels nervous in a deep bath. On the plus side, this means she has no idea of the cost of all my dive kit John. __________________ You can live to be a hundred if you give up all the things that make you want to live to be a hundred.

December 15th, 2006, 08:25 AM	#3 (permalink)
krautrob(Offline) New Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Berlin/Munich Posts: 60	My experience is that you should not try to push your s.o. into diving. It's great if they want to try but the momentum should come from them. Diving is terrible and a nightmare if you are not enjoying it but just giving in to some pressure or because you want to do somebody else a favour. It's only good if you want to do it yourself. There are many other things you can have fun with doing together besides diving. And yes, I would love if I could spend time with my girlfriend and be diving at the same time.

December 15th, 2006, 08:45 AM	#4 (permalink)
sasdasdaf(Offline) New Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Singapore Posts: 375	thanks for the responses so far. i'm definitely aware that i should not try to push her to learn how to dive too much. i'm trying not to be a tyrant and let the impetus come from her as much as possible. i'm hoping that she will see how much fun we have and will be interested in her own right.

December 15th, 2006, 08:58 AM	#5 (permalink)
MonkSeal(Offline) Old Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Zagreb, Croatia Posts: 475	I dive easy, recreational, warm water dives with my wife and I don't expect her to go tech path. If this happens sometime in the future she'll get my support. In the meantime my son started to dive this year and I expect my daughter to start next year.

December 15th, 2006, 10:15 AM	#6 (permalink)
neilh(Offline) Haemoglobin on the bus... Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Barnsley, UK Posts: 1,900	Quote: (Originally Posted by sasdasdaf) Hi all, Welcome your opinions. How do you guys deal with a significant other who is not into diving? Give and take! My wife doesn't dive either (and isn't keen having tried it once and really didn't take to it). I'm lucky because she puts up with me heading off for dive trips - in return I try to make sure I spend some time with her! Holidays are about balance as well. If we go somewhere that I could get a few dives in then that's great, but I don't spend every day diving! She's supportive of me having a diving holiday without her (like Scapa this year), so I try to be grateful!

December 15th, 2006, 07:10 PM	#10 (permalink)
DRE(Offline) New Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Mineola, NY Posts: 162	Find a new girlfriend who does like to cave/tech dive or at least likes the idea of it - them marry her. She'll make the best and most reliable dive buddy ever! __________________ www.dirtydiving.com - DIR is not a 4-letter word!